Daddy

"The Tales of the Tidwells" would not exist without the head of our home, Daniel or "Da-Da," as Kate refers to him. Still, sadly, most of my posts are about Kate or myself. Poor Daniel is generally left out. Thus, this post is devoted exclusively to him.

Daniel is a one-of-a-kind individual: the office cut-up, the family harrasser, the annoying little brother who refuses to grow up and act his age. Maybe he has Peter Pan syndrome or maybe he just simply derives pleasure from antagonizing others.



If he doesn't pick on you, Daniel doesn't care about you, and Daniel cares about everyone. His generosity and love are not immediately obvious because of his humility and the way in which he shows love through pestering, but this unique man has taught me immensely about giving selflessly of time, energy, and money and about not taking life so seriously. He is an extraordinary example for his young daughter and a stress-reliever for his intense wife.

Nearly every Saturday for the past several months Daniel has helped his dad and brother build a house for Granny Ann, Daniel's grandmother. Granny Ann, who has been living in an assisted living facility for the past few years, will be moving into her new house at the end of the year, and she is very blessed because the house is beautiful! Despite working all week, Daniel spends nearly all day Saturday working on this house. I personally have gotten frustrated because Daniel isn't home, but he is serving his family as he should be.

That leads me to another quality I admire in Daniel and that provides a good example for Kate: Daniel respects his parents, even when he is at odds with them, and is loyal to his family. Family--ours, his, and mine--come first to him. Still, he has to pick on his nieces, nephew, and sister-in-law Emily to show he loves them, and if harrassment is any indicator of his love, then I would say he is hopelessly devoted to them and us.



Daniel works hard for us and for others, without grumbling or complaining, because of his love. He sacrifices for us, for his family, because that is just the kind of person he is.

God's Wisdom Revealed

This past weekend I was blessed to be able to leave Kate with Daniel and go with my Bible study group to my parents' cabin for a little getaway. This marked my first overnight stay away from Kate and Daniel's first night alone with her. I was not worried about Daniel or Kate...well, maybe a little concerned for Daniel's sanity! But I knew he could handle it and he did. I am so proud of him!! (I am hoping for a blog post from Daddy's perspective on how things went!)

During the less than 24-hours I was away, I found myself really thinking, praying, and listening to God. That might sound odd considering I was in the company of eight women but let me explain. I woke up early Sunday morning, just before six, and knew I would not be able to go back to sleep. I felt this compulsion to get up, get dressed, and go down to the dock overlooking the lake. A foggy mist glided along and seemed to drift upwards off the chilly water as birds flew by overhead and the sun slowly emerged. Besides the birds' flapping wings and the occasional gunshot in the distance, everything was eerily still and calm, a perfect time to listen to God and hear His wisdom. So, I prayed. In the midst of a new day awakening, I opened my heart to Him and then sat quietly and listened.

Sometimes we justify our desires when we want something badly enough. I could easily rationalize that I needed to go back to school, that Kate and Daniel would be fine, that I could juggle all of it and still have time for God. But in all honesty, and in my heart, I knew this to be a lie. If I went back to school, everyone would suffer: my husband, my child, our household, our finances, but most importantly, my relationship with God. Since being out of school, I have had more time to spend in the Word and in prayer, and now I am involved in two amazing in-depth studies with other Christian women, which has truly blessed my life. Sadly, I wanted God to say, "Go for it! School is your passion and you deserve it!" But as I much I wanted to, I didn't hear that. Instead, I heard God whispering to my heart, telling me to trust in His timing, to stop being selfish, and to be patient.

Like a loving father, God knows what is best for us, and sometimes our desires do not align with His will. Sometimes we aren't ready for what we want. Sometimes He wants us to do something else. My prayer is that I will be attentive and responsive to God's will for me and that He will give me wisdom to understand it.

Wisdom

My Bible study group has just embarked on a study of I Corinthians, and we are using Max Lucado's Life Lessons as the secondary text. As a woman who as a child used to sit on her bedroom floor for hours reading and memorizing trivia and who has spent 80% of her life in school, I have been particularly challenged by what Paul has to say about worldly wisdom.

"...God has made the wisdom of the world foolish...God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise, and He chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. He chose what the world thinks is unimportant and what the world looks down on and thinks is nothing in order to destroy what the world thinks is important. God did this so that no one can brag in His presence." I Cor. 1:20b, 27-29

The world places wisdom on a pedestal along with wealth, power, beauty, and ability. We admire those people who "know a lot" and aspire to be smarter so that people will admire us too. In other cultures, the wise--usually associated with the elderly--are revered; their advice is sought and followed because they are believed to have experienced life and learned valuable lessons from it. I know I have a few "wise" friends that I consult on a regular basis, namely my mom and dad (not that they're "elderly"). However, while I don't think there is anything wrong with consulting others for counsel, it is important to consider who you are consulting and whether or not that person's values align with yours. God wants us to consult Him first and foremost, and His word makes it clear that He wants us to ask Him for spiritual wisdom.

"If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." James 1:5

Right now I feel compelled to ask God for wisdom to make decisions that will put His wisdom--the wisdom that is eternal, without limit, and without error--first and foremost in my life. This request is especially pertinent right now as I consider returning to school and acquiring more "worldly" wisdom. In particular, I am concerned about how this decision might affect my quest for God's perfect wisdom. I ask for your prayers and Godly counsel.